原先我们许诺要一起把拿到加拿大移民做为共同的目标,没想到一向性格稳重的他却突然跟我提出了分手的要求,在忍受了很长时间没有性生活的日子之后,他终于选择了跟别人用一夜情来换取一时的快乐,曾经的海誓山盟终成泡影.这段感情的失败并没有使我过分地伤心,不过它却让我真正懂得了自己想要的到底是什么:爱或许只会成为你前进的包袱,只有不断地个人努力才能成就未来的辉煌,我现在已经不相信任何感情了.

如果这样都经不起时间的考验, 证明了你们的爱还不是很成熟. 在同志圈里, 要找到真真一生的爱不是很容易.
不要为了这一点而放弃了你所追求的人生. 感情是两个人要经营出来才有结果的

在情缘那里刚刚mymouse 有帖了一个不错的"道理". 去看看吧

送你朵花花祝福你有一天找到你的如意良君.

也送朵花花祝福前两位能与爱情长跑

太難了，不要說男女雙方有責任，他們一樣會受不了，更何況是同性戀，太多誘惑了~~

這是一個考驗，但通過到的卻很少~~~

我跟我的英国男友也是因为这个原因分手了~
长时间远距离的“相爱”真的是非常不实际的~

天各一方

....看来我要找一个加拿大帅哥了,不能总让自己活在过去啊,呵呵,大家一起加油!

是啊，我也经历过了
一旦分隔两地，一切的海誓山盟都化为乌有了

这有什么啦，最重要的是相信自己，并服从自已的内心，内心怎么想的就怎么做，没必要勉强，也没必要为了要在一起而在一起，一切什么海誓山盟都只能代表说的那一刻的，不能代表一年后或数年后。这些东西顺其自然就好啦，来就来了，去了就让它去了好啦。

Hey guys,

Don't be so negative. Yes, I agree. Long distance relationship is very difficult. But that doesn't mean it is not possible. The question is if we actually do something for it. I feel a long distance relationship is like a process period of building a stable and successful relationship. Many people failed this process. However, I don't believe I should reject a guy who is interested in dating me just because he doesn't live in the same area.

I met my partner online more than two years ago. Back then I lived in nevada, and he was in California. Our email conversation lasted about a month before he actually came in town with his family for a vacation. We clicked well when we met in person. I did have some doubts though because of our totally different background and the long distance between us.

We went out to a bar with my friends. They all could tell he is very attracted to me. I told one of my friends about my thoughts. He told me if i passed this opportunity, it would come back again. Then I realized, yeah, how many opportunities we have in our life to find a true love anyway??? So I decided to give it a shot.

Things happened very fast after that. He always came back to see me. And, of course, we had lots of phone conversation and online messages. He is a traditional white guy who has a head on his shoulders. We both have similar goals and plans.

One year later, we both realized we had done a lot for this relationship and it was time to move on. So we talked about it. Communication is the key for a relationship, no matter you are together or have a long distance thing. We both agreed it was time for us to move in together.

Then it all came to one question --- Who is gonna move for the other?

He is from a little farm town in California, where he didn't see it wouldn't provide many opportunities for me. So he shut down his own business there and moved for me. He found a job the next day after he moved here. We have lived together since then, and the rest is history.

My partner doesn't like to talk much. He rarely says stuff like "I love you." But he does things to show it. I can see his passion for this relationship simply by looking at his actions.

I share this with you guys because I believe we all should have passion for our beliefs and actually DO something to make things work. When you have a chance to find someone, work on it. Even it is a long distance relationship. Sometimes, you also have to sacrifice something.

This is not a perfect world. You have to make efforts to make a relationship work.

Hope you all will find what you want someday!

(引用主题#56384)fongville：
因为相距太远再加上近一年没有见面,我的男朋友终于因为忍受不了寂寞而主动跟我提出了分手,虽然这已经是8个月以前的事了,但是它的阴影却一直在我心里忽隐忽现.我之所以发这个主题是因为想听听大家对远距离感情的见解,像我们这些在外的学子最容易遇到的感情问题就莫过于此了.

我与我前任BF的关系也是因为他的在外求学等候了1166天。不过是我主动提出我们分手的。我没有去与别人搞一夜情，因为我觉得我不应该这样去连累他，他应该找到更幸福的。所以，我……

飞火流星:我们的感情经历是不一样的,你主动提出分手是因为你胸怀博大而居于现实,我原先的男朋友跟我分手是为了忍受不了长时间没有性生活.对于你的感情遭遇我觉得很可惜,大家都继续努力吧!

(引用回贴#700240)oceansapart：

what a lovely story. I do agree the point is that we both should do womething for the others and keep the relationship work and go on.  Good balance and sacrifice is always needed.

if you have thing to contact with me , pls, just write to me as a mentalistic friend we can make. hehe

(引用回贴#703344)清茶：

I'd love to share my life stories with you. Write me up!

(引用回贴#703382)oceansapart：
(引用回贴#703344)清茶：

I'd love to share my life stories with you. Write me up!


share with us too...

我其实也算是在一个long distance relationship吧。我跟我的BF住在不同的城市，只有在周末才在一齐，平时在晚上同电话而已。但是我们的关系还是很好，在一起已经有三年多了。

我认识的另外一对同志伴侣已经在一起有10年了，其中一个后来来了美国读书，另一个在中国。但是为了最终在一齐，那个在中国的几经辛苦，周转几个国家后终于来到美国跟他的BF团聚。

另一个同志伴侣一个在美国，一个在加拿大，在一起已经很多年了。因为有一个还是在学校，所以大家一般只有在假期的时候才可以见面，平时只是打电话或用电脑。

其实我觉得long distance relationship是有可能的，但是双方都要有信心，追求的是爱而不是一时的快感。

时间和距离就是一个很大的考验！！

我有朋友在nanaimo,你是在马拉斯皮那读书吗??读什么啊,你的英文名能说吗??他是gay,读esl,马大!

....小珑儿,你的朋友跟我在一个学校!不过我看还是不认识他为好,我不习惯把自己的身份告诉朋友之外的人,呵呵.

(引用回贴#700240)oceansapart：
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你好。

你说得对。

如果可以，我想和你成为聊天的朋友。

Ship,你在跟谁说话?

(引用回贴#724640)ship：


你好。

你说得对。

如果可以，我想和你成为聊天的朋友。

That'd be great. I don't use the chat rooms here often. But i check this message board. Or you can write to my community email.

Hey guys,

Just got back from California with bf last night. We went to visit his family last Thursday. The weather was nice, and we had a great time. His mom gave us lots of plants. We spent the whole morning planting all of them in the yard. Anyway, just wanna say hi to you guys and let you know i m back.

take care

You said you wanna make friends with me?

(引用回贴#700240)oceansapart：
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至少你的语言给人的感觉是沉稳而理智的，祝福你和你的男友。因为你们之间很少把“我爱你”挂在嘴边，这就让我对你们相当看好。

(引用回贴#753545)张易之：
(引用回贴#700240)oceansapart：
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至少你的语言给人的感觉是沉稳而理智的，祝福你和你的男友。因为你们之间很少把“我爱你”挂在嘴边，这就让我对你们相当看好。

Thanks a lot.

我想知道你是谁??因为我也在nanaimo住过,我打算5月回去,我应该认识你吧!

...小珑儿,你5月份回NANAIMO就可以见到我了,呵呵.

遠距情緣？唉！山盟雖在，錦書難托啊！
祝君好運！希望在人間！

(引用回贴#730641)oceansapart：
Hey guys,

Just got back from California with bf last night. We went to visit his family last Thursday. The weather was nice, and we had a great time. His mom gave us lots of plants. We spent the whole morning planting all of them in the yard. Anyway, just wanna say hi to you guys and let you know i m back.

take care

You and your bf were in CA?  What part? We could have hung out....

我想你应该认识我,我在nanaimo也挺出名的,我现在减肥成功,可能你认不出我了,你先告诉我,你是不是读马大啊??

我的QQ:359077496.你加我吧!!

....我是做事很低调的那种人,你说你在NANAIMO很有名那我可真是有些对你胆怯了.

(引用回贴#900316)fongville：
....我是做事很低调的那种人,你说你在NANAIMO很有名那我可真是有些对你胆怯了.

where are you from??GZ?? do you have QQ??or msn?? you can add me into your QQ if you want!

(引用回贴#889839)nayiak：
(引用回贴#730641)oceansapart：
Hey guys,

Just got back from California with bf last night. We went to visit his family last Thursday. The weather was nice, and we had a great time. His mom gave us lots of plants. We spent the whole morning planting all of them in the yard. Anyway, just wanna say hi to you guys and let you know i m back.

take care

You and your bf were in CA?  What part? We could have hung out....



Sorry, nayiak. For some reason I missed this message from you. BF is from Monterey area. We currently live in Reno, NV. We just went back his hometown for a visit. But we have been to SF several times. It'd be great if someday we can have a chance to hang out.

take care.

(引用回贴#882403)fongville：
...小珑儿,你5月份回NANAIMO就可以见到我了,呵呵.

是吗??那我回去你是不是一定见我啊??怎么联系啊??

(引用回贴#903656)oceansapart：
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Reno is quite close to my area.  I live in the Stockton/Sacramento/Bay Area, just a couple of hours drive from here to Reno... Alas, I haven't been to Reno for some time, and I really want to go there before I move away from CA in August...

(引用回贴#928167)nayiak：
(引用回贴#903656)oceansapart：
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Reno is quite close to my area.  I live in the Stockton/Sacramento/Bay Area, just a couple of hours drive from here to Reno... Alas, I haven't been to Reno for some time, and I really want to go there before I move away from CA in August...

I have been to Sac several times. Have a friend who lives in that area. Reno is quiet. I like it, but most of my friends hate it cause they think it is boring. Hopefully, you guys will have time for a trip before you move away.

是的,这是一个不好解决的问题,但这也可以考验两个人之间的感情到底如何,其实不管怎样自己都有要好好把握,我很同情,最后,祝你能找到更好的幸福!

(引用回贴#922952)小珑儿：
(引用回贴#882403)fongville：
...小珑儿,你5月份回NANAIMO就可以见到我了,呵呵.

是吗??那我回去你是不是一定见我啊??怎么联系啊??

為什么不囬我帖,一說到這個問題,就不見妳人影,我又不是老虎,我不喫人!!!

爱情就象花朵，要不断的灌溉，柏拉图式的爱情并非人人可以忍受。

小珑儿,我这个人做事很低调,你还是去找其他的同志朋友吧.

好晕，都是蝌蚪

好可怜啊！

新东方一个老师说的很有道理。
距离不是美，距离是电话费是、眼泪、是思念、是痛苦、是孤单。。

我觉得两个人在一起就大胆地爱一场,如果一方背叛了你就挥挥手SAY GOODBYE----至少我做到了这点所以我现在已经不为他伤心了.

爱过以后再忘记他，很难很难，我无法做到。